Transform Wet Blankets into Comfort Quilts
by Cathy Goodwin, Ph.D.
You've embarked on a major transition and your enthusiasm is growing.
Just when you get a small fire going, someone comes along with a heavy wet
"You'll hate it."
"I turned down that job two years ago, but it's perfect for you."
"Nobody makes a living that way."
Strategies to Transform Wet Blankets into Comfort Quilts.
"Calm under pressure" is a skill you can learn, and it gives you power.
I used to flinch when people were critical until I worked with Rick, an
Air Force veteran who had seen more action than he cared to admit.
When a bullying administrator yelled, Rick would laugh. "It's just
noise," he would say, "not enemy aircraft." And he'd bounce right back
into his next idea.
Recognize the champion in the critic. By investing time and energy to
insult you, your critic acknowledges you have strength and power. Be
The universe has sent you a coach. Dancers and athletes learn that
coaches do not waste time on losers.
Pat Summitt, award-winning coach of Tennessee's Lady Vols, warns
that she yells only at the best players. It's when she stops yelling
that you need to worry.
Use humor. When I told a colleague I was considering jobs outside
academia, he suggested I visit the campus psychiatrist. Next, he
recommended a career guidance book designed for people seeking their very
first full-time position after completing a doctoral degree.
I was insulted. Then I decided to have some fun. I surfed around and
found reviews of half a dozen books that he could read. One was a
mentoring guide for dummies.
He got the message, I felt great and we're still friends.
Wet blankets reflect your inner fears. "You'll hate living there," your
friend predicts. And, privately, you wonder if he's right.
"What if there's nothing to do in that tiny little town? Can I handle
eighty degrees and humid? What if I can't get another job?"
Your Inner Critic chimes in with, "What makes you think you can run
your own business?"
Finally, use imagery... ss you feel a wet blanket smother your fire,
replace it with a soft, light, warm quilt. Be warm, comfortable and
protected as you complete your journey.
Don't worry about saying "I told you so!" to the wet blankets. By the
time you've achieved your dream, you'll have only dim memories of that
soggy heap in the corner.
This article is based on my ebook, Nine Magic Keys to
Cathy Goodwin, Ph.D. Author, Career Consultant,
*When Career Freedom Means Business*
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