Beat the Procrastination Blues
by Kathy Gates
Ever find yourself delaying and delaying on something until it becomes a
crisis? Thatís when Procrastination has taken charge of your life -- instead of
YOU being in charge of your life.
Procrastination is as natural to human beings as eating. Itís easy to do
things we want to do, but the things we find difficult or unpleasant are what we
put off And sometimes delaying a little bit here and there is not a big deal.
But if procrastination is habitual for you, and is causing things to happen in
your life that you donít want to happen, itís time for a new sheriff in town.
Simply, procrastination is just a habit of making the wrong choices. Itís
choosing to take a nap instead of mowing the lawn Itís deciding to watch
ďFriendsĒ instead of working out. Itís opting to socialize with a co-worker
instead of working on a project. Itís cleaning off your desk instead of getting
prepared for a meeting. Itís ďIíll do it laterĒ.
Now thereís nothing inherently wrong with any of these choices. As an adult
you have the luxury of choosing how you behave, and choosing your own
responsibilities. And we all have responsibilities that we donít particularly
care for. But if you allow Procrastination to make choices that arenít good for
you, or that you donít really want to make, then itís time to put your
Procrastination Buddy on a leash.
ďJust Do ItĒ may be a great marketing slogan, but in real life we often need
a little bit more to work with. To conquer Procrastination, you will need to
change the behavior that works against you achieving the desired results.
Remember that you are changing a habit, and it will feel uncomfortable and
unnatural at first. But with practice, you can teach Procrastination that it is
not welcome in your life. Here are three ways to do this.
1. When you recognize a particular task is difficult for you and that you
continually put it off until the last minute, try designing a system to handle
it, instead of just ďputting out the fireĒ when it becomes a problem. For
example, if youíre always putting off or talking yourself out of your gym time,
consider setting up a buddy system, so that you know youíre going to meet
someone. Or make a date with someone to come over to your house to work out with
you Ė a trainer, or a friend. By doing this, you have set up a system that will
pull you forward when youíre willpower is low.
2. Determine if Procrastination is signaling you that you have made a
mistake in your choice. If you find it difficult to go to work in the
morning, perhaps you are in the wrong job. If you find that you donít want to go
home in the evening after work, it may be that you are living in a place that is
not healthy for you. Donít continue a mistake. Admit the mistake to yourself
first and others (if necessary), and make the necessary arrangements to make it
right. One of my clients was a senior in college receiving a degree in
Electrical Engineering. He was having difficulty finishing projects, doing
homework, studying for tests. His parents believed that he was afraid to go out
into the ďreal worldĒ. But as we talked, it became apparent that he had never
wanted to be an engineer and had allowed others to make those choices for him.
He was spending all his time working in a restaurant where they were teaching
him how to cook. As soon as he recognized that he had made a mistake, he was
able to tell his parents how he really felt, and make the change to get the
training to be a chef.
3. We all have things weíre good at and things we prefer to do, and
Procrastination can also signal that it is task that you really donít like to
do. Ask first, does it have to be done at all, and second, does it have to
be done by you. Consider delegating the task to someone who would enjoy it, so
that you can concentrate on things that you would devote more creativity and
energy to. Personally, I struggle with keeping exercise in my life. So instead
of learning things I didnít find interesting, I hired a trainer who shows me
what to do and helps me move forward consistently. I delegated that job to him,
and now, I donít have to think about it anymore.
Finally, REWARD yourself for a job well done. This is very important and a
step that a lot of people ignore. A reward can come in any form you choose, from
a simple affirmation to yourself, to buying yourself a treat. Realize that the
ultimate reward for taming Procrastination is that by being in control of what
you do, and finding ways to do it efficiently, you have given yourself more time
to enjoy your life.
Kathy Gates, Professional Life Coach, works with people who
are unorganized, underappreciated, and lacking direction or focus on their
goals. She can be reached at
www.reallifecoach.com, or call 480.998.5842.